What do these questions do for you?
- When you are at your best, where are you? What are you doing?
- Who are you when faced with challenges? Stress?
- What do you value most about your current success as/in ___________?
- What do you value least in your current set of experiences?
These simple yet powerful questions are designed to increase your awareness. Whether it is your awareness of the quality of the results you are getting. Or, the awareness of your mental and emotional states in certain situations, you will find self-awareness and awareness of your environment will make or break you. Below is an excerpt from a previous blog post entitled: Why self-awareness matters to managers
This aspect of emotional intelligence is one that will win many battles both on the work field and in the personal field of life. One can’t argue that this is an invaluable attribute to have. It stands to reason that if you are going to lead or manage people, having a high sense of self-awareness would be a characteristic that runs high on the must have list of traits. This is not the case for many managers.
If you hold certain beliefs about people, work, titles/positions and roles within an organization these can hinder or assist you in being the best darn manager you were intended to be. In fact, this could cost you your own job! Survey of newly hired managers found that between 35-50% fail as managers and end up being either demoted or flat-out fired.There are two important factors the survey results put forward for this high failure rate, Managers lack of self-awareness is one of the two.
How do you know if you are self-aware?
Self-awareness is tied to your ability to speak the truths about yourself first to yourself and then to others. This means being fully aware of your perspective, your world view of how you see the world. This then comes down to your beliefs and deep-seated ideas about the myriad of events, people and situations that go to make up life. To truly be self-aware a manager will need to start first by getting to ‘know themselves’. This getting to know yourself is the key to being aware of whom you are, what you are likely or not likely to do in certain situations. It is the key to how you interact with people, it tells you why you are comfortable and at ease around others while you can’t wait to exit stage left when around others.
Benefits of self-awareness:
- Better Management of Challenges
- Helps to Create Solutions
- Identifies Barriers & Resources
- Helps Reveal your Intention
To reap the benefits of self-awareness you must be able to ask yourself questions that are designed to do just that. Take a page out of a good journalist’s book and practice phrasing questions using the W’s and H type questions:
- What will need to change for me to….?
- How can I solve this problem? Who can I ask for help with…?
- Why do I want ___? or Why did I react the way I did?
- Where do I want to be in my career? Over what period of time?
- When is reasonable for me to complete this project?
In my next post I will show you how to continue using the 5-step AADCA© process for asking questions so you are equipped to ask great questions and get people to take action and maintain the action taken.
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