How Emotionally Intelligent are You?

Are you the kind of person everyone enjoys having  on their team? If you are that person do  you know why this is so? Why do you get picked over others? What do you do for your team members that make them keep wanting more of you?

This is obviously a great thing for you and your team and one that if you know why would take your game to an even higher level. You are likely an emotionally intelligent person. One who is able to speak and operate authentically from your core values while being attuned to the emotional needs of those around you.

You are likely one who is able to demonstrate the appropriate amount of empathy to your team members and do so in a genuine and consistent way.  Your presence elevates people’s moods and overall emotional well-being.  You are able to assert your feelings and thoughts in a way that demonstrates your core values and beliefs-without decimating those around you.  You are able to create harmony and resonance among your team members. You in essence are the silence that makes the music the one who brings everyone together synchronously.


In a nut shell, you are an Emotionally Intelligent (EI) leader- whether or not you hold a formal title. This ability to tap into your own emotional awareness and that of others is what sets you apart from those who are non-EI leaders.  Non- EI leaders accomplish the very opposite of EI leaders.

So, knowing this about yourself I challenge you with helping others around you build their own level of emotional intelligence.  To do this you will draw on your own natural strengths in this area while using the AADCA Process for asking Questions. Below is an excerpt from a previous blog post: How to ask Great Questions


A- Assumptions: you got to check them (yours and your team members’) or your questions are doomed to fail

A-Awareness: without this your team members will keep doing the same things with no growth. This would be insane, right?

D- Discover Solutions: without solutions awareness is futile and unable to move your team members forward

C-Create Change: when combined with awareness and solutions the next step is to create the psychological state to move into changing existing behaviour into desired behaviour. This is where you will start to see the growth of EI team members.

A-Action: is the end result of the previous 4 steps. Without action your team members will be stuck in being Non-EI leaders

So remember, though you are a sought after emotionally intelligent team member you have the responsibility to help others also become emotionally intelligent.  The AADCA Process for asking questions can help you achieve this.

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